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Christian Marriage & Relationship Coaching

For women who:

  • Are in a difficult marriage or relationship

  • Are healing after divorce or breakup

  • Want real transformation, not spiritual bypassing.

 

Trauma-informed. Spirit-led. Grounded in Scripture and psychology.


 
 

DO YOU FIND YOURSELF:

  • Trapped in repetitive patterns of emotional reactivity and ongoing relational conflict?

  • Chronically self-erasing, people-pleasing, over-functioning, or over-giving?

  • Anxiously attached and stuck in codependent push/pull cycles?

  • Struggling to heal and move on after a difficult divorce or breakup?

BUT YOU’RE ALSO:

  • Hungry to reclaim a secure identity in Christ?

  • Longing to learn new, healthier ways of relating and resolving conflicts?

  • Craving to heal and rebuild with biblical wisdom and healthy boundaries?

  • Ready to break the cycle, experience transformation, and find true peace?

 
 

…THEN YOU’RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. HELP IS HERE!

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Virtuous Heality
 

Heal Your Reality.


Trauma-Informed Christian Breakthrough Coaching for women

with CHRISTIN MENENDEZ

 
  • Certified Master Coach & Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

  • Certified Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy® & Parts Integration Work

Christin Menendez - Certified Master Coach

Christin Menendez:

-Certified Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

-Certified Master Coach & Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy® + Parts Integration Work

I help women of faith break the trauma-driven, spiritually attacked relationship cycles that keep them reactive, overgiving, and stuck—so they can heal, become whole in Christ, and build Christ-honoring relationships with steady strength.

If you love God but keep cycling through the same patterns of reactivity, people-pleasing, over-functioning, or emotional shutdown, there’s a reason. Old wounds don’t disappear; they show up in your closest relationships. And the enemy loves to exploit what’s unhealed. The pain and grief the wounds still carry become the exact material the enemy uses to keep us (and our relationships) locked in spiritual bondage.

I help you heal the wound, break agreement with the lies from “the Accuser”, and rebuild your identity in Christ so you can love with wisdom and integrity, set boundaries without guilt, and pursue (or redeem) a Christ-honoring relationship. No more self-erasure!

I offer a seamless combination of: Holy Spirit sensitivity + Scripture clarity + trauma-informed attachment literacy all within a structured transformation process. This work is an initiation—not into mysticism, but into biblical spiritual maturity. We don’t merely treat symptoms; we excavate the unseen roots that keep the patterns intact and activated, and we systematically work them through a healing and redemptive process so they no longer have power over your life.


Who is this for?

This is for you if:

  • You’re a Christian woman in a difficult marriage (or recovering from divorce/betrayal), or even just a difficult season of your relationship.

  • You feel emotionally reactive, defensive, or exhausted by conflict.

  • You keep people-pleasing, over-giving, or managing others while abandoning yourself in order to keep the peace.

  • You suspect codependency or anxious/avoidant attachment patterns are involved.

  • You want biblical wisdom and practical tools (not just “pray and read the Bible more”).

  • You’re ready for truth, responsibility, accountability and deep healing.

  • You’re tired of surface-level change and want real transformation.

This is NOT for you if:

  • You want a quick fix, a villain to blame, or refuse to self-examine. Let’s be clear: you are not responsible for others’ behavior or choices. But it’s also true that a relational pattern implies there’s input from at least two people. You can’t control what others do, but you can control whether or not you participate.

  • The only effort you’re willing to put forth is strictly IN session. Expect to get some great work done both in AND out of session. Tasking between sessions is an important part of the process that helps you integrate what you learn by applying concepts to daily life.

  • You’re looking for prophetic readings, full deliverance sessions, or spiritual spectacle. While I fully believe in and embrace the supernatural power of the Holy Spirit, this container is more about learning how to apply the Word of God to your life in a practical way that frees you from the impacts of trauma and emotional wounds.

  • You want transformation without discomfort. Lovingly: that’s not how this works. God often walks us through His refining fire so we can cast off all that does not look like Him. He wants to redeem all of our “mess” for His glory and for our healing, but He never promised it would be easy.


How I help

Put simply, it goes: Identify cycle → witness, validate and heal wound → break agreement → replace with biblical Truth → build practical skills → walk in maturity.

In my 1:1 coaching program, we’ll:

  • Identify the repeating conflict cycle and help you understand the root causes, as well as understand your part in it (with compassion, and without shame)

  • Map the wound underneath and its origins (e.g., fear of abandonment and rejection, “not-good-enough”, shame, etc.)

  • Safely witness and validate the emotions, and help you release the emotional charge from past events

  • Break agreement with the lie (the false beliefs from the enemy) and replace it with Gospel Truth about who you are in Christ

  • Regulate your nervous system so you can respond from clarity instead of reacting from emotional triggers

  • Build healthy, biblical boundaries and communication skills that protect covenant love

  • Help you show up in your marriage/relationship (or help re-enter life after divorce) with integrity, dignity, clarity, steadiness, and peace

 
 

If you “know better” but still repeat the cycle…

If you keep ending up in the same emotional places (over-giving, over-thinking, self-erasing, people-pleasing, shutting down, second-guessing yourself) I help you identify the hidden drivers and gently dismantle them.

Not with hype. Not with spiritual performance. But with truth, tools, and a clear process.

 

 

Why you can’t “just move on”

The emotional impacts of our life experiences become imprinted on our nervous system and stored in our subconscious mind, out of our awareness. No matter how long ago it was, your nervous system and subconscious mind don’t just “forget” what happened; they store what you survived. That storage becomes a filter, like a lens that colors and shades how you interpret yourself, what you tolerate, what you attract, what you perceive as a “threat”, and how you react under stress.

 

 

How unresolved wounds show up in relationships

When past conflicts and wounds remain unresolved, they often present as unmet emotional needs that quietly shape how we relate. Relationships become the primary arena where we unconsciously seek what we didn’t receive earlier in life, reenacting familiar emotional patterns even when they’re unhealthy. Without intentional inner work, these wounds continue to influence our needs, values, partner choices, attraction patterns, and relational behaviors.

So unresolved wounds often show up as:

  • Anxious or avoidant attachment patterns

  • Codependency and over-functioning

  • Conflict avoidance or emotional shutdown

  • Trauma bonds, enmeshment, and “I know this is unhealthy but I can’t seem to let go” dynamics

 

 

What doesn’t work (and why you’re tired)

The answer is not:

  • “Be more positive”

  • “Manifest a better life”

  • “Perform better”

  • “Pray the pain away”

The goal is: emotional freedom + steadiness in Christ—wisdom, boundaries, and self-respect. If you want a transformed life, it starts with a transformed YOU.

 

 

My approach: Spirit-led and psychologically grounded

I bridge the gap between spiritual formation and practical psychology—centered in the Holy Spirit, and grounded in tools that create real change. I’m trained to spot what’s operating under the surface (fear loops, false guilt, self-betrayal, invisible agreements) so we address the real issue instead of circling the same story for months.

 
 

Testimonials

 
 
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Book Your free 60-minute discovery SESSION with me Today

If you’re interested in Coaching, I offer one free 60-minute Discovery Session so we can discuss your challenges and determine if coaching is a good fit for you.

You’ll leave the call with clarity on:

  • what’s driving the pattern

  • whether coaching is a fit

  • the best next step (whether that’s with me or not)

If this sounds like you, click the button below to schedule your free Discovery Session!

 
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In my coaching program, you’ll learn how to:

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  • Build a practice of self-awareness and honest self-reflection

  • Heal the root drivers behind repeating relational patterns

  • Regulate emotions so you can respond instead of react

  • Rebuild self-trust and make healthier, wiser choices

  • Re-author the story of your past without living in victimhood

  • Transform inner dialogue from harshness to truth + compassion

  • Set boundaries without guilt or collapse

  • Stop overgiving and over-functioning, and start relating from strength

  • And so much more!

 
 

Have you ever felt like…

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  • You chronically give more than you receive?

  • You feel responsible for other people’s emotional state?

  • You over-function, manage, shrink, fix, or rescue in order to keep the peace?

  • You struggle to say “no” without guilt?

  • You keep attracting confusing or emotionally unsafe dynamics?

  • You’ve lost yourself in a relationship, or after a breakup?

 

I’m here to help.

 
Christin Menendez - Intuitive, Empathic Coach & Amazon Best-Selling AuthorCertified Master Coach & Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)Certified Master Practitioner of Hypnotherapy and Time Line Therapy®

You are not alone! My name is Christin Menendez, and I’m a trauma-informed breakthrough Coach who can help you heal the root causes that keep you cycling through these frustrating patterns. I don’t coach “from on high”… I get “down in the trenches” with you.

I understand the inner war of looking fine on the outside while feeling stuck on the inside, because I’ve lived it. And I also know what it takes to heal it without self-abandonment or spiritual bypassing.

I’ve been there. And I’m living proof of the metamorphosis that transpires when we release the past and heal our heart.

(Read my full bio here.)

 
 
 
 
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It’s time to be seen and heard.

You don’t have to struggle through it alone.

 

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.”

- Revelation 3:20

Are you ready to answer?

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Four BIG things I realized in my own healing journey:

  1. Wounds cannot fully heal without being opened and cleaned out. Just like physical wounds, our emotional wounds require our attention and care to heal properly. We might tell ourselves we’ve gotten over it and moved on, but that only means we taught ourselves to merely cope by avoiding the emotions. Avoiding, numbing and escaping does not heal the internal conflict. The only way to heal it is to feel it. Whatever you do, don’t try to escape your pain, but learn to let it move through you.

  2. The pain is exactly where you’ll find the wisdom to heal. Every painful experience holds the wisdom of a valuable life lesson, but it doesn’t have to become a life sentence! We can choose to learn and grow from our experiences, or to repeat the pattern. If you aren’t working to break the cycle, you’re likely perpetuating it without even knowing. Conflict presents an opportunity to overcome obstacles and solve issues, through which we build confidence, emotional strength and resilience.

  3. Awareness is curative. Self-knowledge is the key that unlocks the door to healing. Unresolved wounds and the pain of unmet needs tend to feed the problematic patterns, and we often participate in those patterns unconsciously. The more we can observe ourselves objectively, the more we can recover choice. Self-awareness restores agency.

  4. Healing comes from the paradigm shift. We can’t change what happened to us, but we can change the meaning and the power it holds over our lives. Most of us have significant emotional events in our past where a limiting belief was formed—where we decided we couldn’t trust people, or that we would be abandoned, or perhaps that we’re not good enough. Most of us go on living our lives without ever truly examining or questioning such beliefs objectively. From a new perspective on the old event, we can extract the wisdom and change the meaning, which allows us to release the emotion. This new perspective creates a paradigm shift that heals.

 
 

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